Koran Karim clearly condemns backbiting. Allah says in
Surah Hujraat
Translation
And Do not backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Surely you would abhor it, Fear from Allah( If you had done this in past repent as) Surely Allah is Relenting, Merciful. (12) .
Let see what is backbiting and what are its adverse effects on our daily lives that Allah resembled it in Koran Karim with eating of dead human flesh. Eating of human is an abhor able deed and the dead one’s flesh is more abhor able and eating the dead brother’s flesh is really really intolerable.
Backbiting is a big sin, We are presenting the definition of backbiting so that Muslim brothers and sisters can understand and avoid backbiting in future. We try our best to increase the passion of Quran recitation with our simple to understand articles.
Hadhrat Abu Dharr is a known pious companion of Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Once he asked,” O Messenger of Allah, what is backbiting? Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him),” It is to mention about your brother that which he dislikes.” Abu Dharr inquired again that It would be still considered as backbiting if the mentioned fault was actually present in concerned person. Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) replied in a very simple and clear way if the mentioned fault was actually present in concerned person, it is backbiting and if if the mentioned fault was not present in concerned person then it is slandering.
Be aware, brothers and sisters !! making false and damaging statements about someone is also prohibited in Islam. We will discuss it in any other post with the reference of Koran Karim. We can save our selves from hell fire if we make busy ourselves in Quran recitation rather than such discussions. You observed that Holy Prophet advised us to respect the privacy of others. Even we are aware of some defects in nature or habit of any one. We should not make it a topic of discussion. It is not an appreciated act.
If someone refuses to participate in such talks , other will be save from this sin and if someone appreciates the backbiting talks he will be part in promoting it. listening to backbiting is also a contribution in backbiting.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said To Imam Ali Ibn Abi Talib (peace be upon him) that if the backbiting of some one was done in presence of some one and he listened it without degrading the speaker despite being capable of doing so, Allah would humiliate him in this world and in the Hereafter.
Respected parents, it is very necessary to avoid backbiting if you want to refrain your kids from such social evils. You are the first school. Your kids will learn from you more. So please mold your lives according to quran for kids and for your own salvation. I am repeating it again that our kids learn from our practice more as compared to our sayings. May Allah save us from such social evils.